Wednesday, February 24, 2010

The Talk

Let's talk about "The Talk". Today I was at lunch with some friends and we were talking about having "The Talk" with our kids....well - we were mostly talking about our girls because the girls in our families are the only ones who are any where near old enough for "The Talk".

My friend recommended this book. She said that she bought it for her oldest daughter, now 10 1/2, when she was about 9. At least, I think this is the book - from what I remember her saying the title of the book, Kris, if I'm wrong please do correct me.

Here is the thing. A is 8 and I know the time for "the talk" is coming faster than I would like to acknowledge that it is coming. I'm just wondering when is the right time and what is the right thing.
I think I remember my Mom having "the talk" with me when I was about 9. She had a book and we did the WHOLE talk all at one time. By the whole talk I mean -- The Body talk -the talk about the importance of hygiene with the onset of puberty. The importance of taking a shower every day, using deodorant and all the other things that come with the raging hormones. PLUS - the other part of the talk -- The Birds and The Bees talk.

That got me wanting to ask all of you wise women out there in blogland.

When did you give "the talk" or when do you plan to do it?

Are you going to do the WHOLE talk or maybe do the Body talk first and then the Birds and the Bees Talk later? OR vice versa?

Is it an event for you and your daughter or just another talk?

Are you going to use a book of some kind or just have the talk?

I'm very interested in hearing from you all out there as I prepare for the time that is coming to share these things with my girls. I want to make sure that I do this "talk" in a way that brings my girls and I closer to one another and in a way that is God honoring, too. In a way that helps them understand that God did make girls unique and that there are some wonderful things ( and some not so wonderful things) about that.

Thanks everyone and I look forward to hearing back from you.



Lisa said...

Silas and Gavin have both gotten bits and pieces of the talk. Silas more than Gavin. They've always asked questions and I give honest, accurate responses, but don't offer up more than they ask about. We have a VERY old school book that I've read them off and on since they were 3 or 4. I probably should get an updated one. I'm talking unicorns and rainbows here!

Deidre said...

I am 39 and STILL waiting on 'the talk' from my mother :)

Ofcourse, I want to be more intentional with my girls (won't take much, will it?), but the whole idea makes me sick - ha!

Ginger said...

I think Mom may have already purchased that book for your kids so you may want to check with her before you buy it. Also - I saw a GREAT Oprah on this very subject. Dr. Laura Berman was on there & she was giving advice on how moms should talk to their daughters about this very subject. I think the little girl on there was 10 & they showed Dr. Laura coaching the mom, then the mom giving the information to the little girl. I know Oprah & Dr. Laura are secular but you can pick & choose what you want to use. Follow this link if you want to see the video of the mom's conversation with the little girl and/or more info from Dr. Laura about how to talk to your children about this.
Love you!

Cheryl said...

When your first one gets a little older, I'd definitely reccommend, "Preparing Your Daughter for Every young woman's Battle", by Shannon Etheridge.
It's written in 2parts. The first part is just for you. The 2nd part is for you and your daughter to read together.
It's excellent!
And even though you have "the talk", it really should be an ongoing conversation!