I am pleading with you all for advice on some things that have really been bothering me lately. I would love to get all the answers that I can on this one from other ministry people......pastor's wives (and husbands, too if there are any out there). So, if you don't mind leading some folks my way to answer these questions, I would appreicate it!
1. How do you deal with lies that are told about your spouse?
For almost two years now, we have been serving the current church we are at. AND for almost that long there has been several things said that my husband said that are completely untrue. Well, last Sunday at a meeting I had had enough. I am so tired of sitting and listening things beings said about my husband that are untrue. SO, the question is how do you deal with it? How should I deal with it? Let it go? Or is it right to stand up for him and say outright that it isn't true? That brings me to my next question......
2. Why is it that I am supposed to just sit by and listen to people talk bad about my husband and then not be affected by it?
It is always amazing to me that people seem to think it is okay to talk about my husband in front of me and then expect me not to defend him.....especially if what is being said is untrue or unfounded. It may just be around here that this happens but I find it very disturbing, very hurtful and I am totally at a loss at to what to do about things.
Those are my questions for you ministry spouses out there.
Here is my question for all you lay folks out there.
1. How would you as a lay person hope (or expect) for your pastor's spouse to respond to things like this? Is there are way to respond to things like this that is open and honest on my part and yet still conveys love?
Please be open and honest with me! I am really seeking what is best in this situation.
Another thing that has occured to me is that it seems that in recent years there is just no respect for the position of pastor. What I mean by this is that it seems that no one really sees the pastor as being called by God to lead the church. Everyone has their opinion and own ways they think that church should be "done" and if it isn't done their way then it is wrong. What ever happened to believing that God is leading this person called pastor? The way I see it, in my own personal case, God called my husband into the ministry and expects him to lead the church to the best of his ability - leaning on God the whole time, of course. God called this man and he then spent 3 years of his life in seminary which prepared him to be the pastor. I just wonder why people don't respect that.
SO, this question is for everyone -- ministry spouses and lay folks.
1. Do you think there is a lack of respect for pastors? If so, do you see it as a problem in the church?
I'm asking if you see this as a problem in the church at large - not necessarily in your specific churches.
THANKS so much for your time. Anyone you can lead my way to comment on this would be appreciated, too! Also, I can't get my spell check to work - so forgive and misspellings, please.